Borrowed Elements of Performance

Sports understand performance. Whether or not you follow a particular sport, we can learn something from how sports are structured.

These elements are common in games and competition. If we allow it, they carry into personal and business growth as well:

  • Scoreboard. How do you know you are ‘winning’?
  • Coaches. Who is helping you improve, constantly?
  • Accountability. What oversight keeps you in-check?
  • Feedback. What you’re doing right? What’s needs to change?
  • Rituals. What are the habits and systems within the organization that lead to positive results?

These are easy to overlook because they are not required. Setting them up is a choice.

Their presence can propel us toward success (however we choose to define it). Their absence can leave us feeling stuck.

Purpose Statement Framework

In the summer of 2018, I began feeling an increased tension around decision making. Growing up, we learn to decide between ‘right’ and ‘wrong’. As adults, there is more gray area and less objectivity. The right answer is rarely obvious. Our choices are less polarized.

If we are fortunate, we have the opportunity to choose between multiple great options too. Without a clear winner, this can lead to indecision or a lack of directed effort.

My intention in pursuing a personal purpose statement was simple. Create a standard to measure future decisions. More than a job description, it’s a declaration of intent and focus. We each have unique skills, interests, and passions. A well crafted purpose statement provides a framework for aligning each decision.

The process for me took months of discussion, reflection, and experimentation. Looking back, I’ve refined the process into a Framework for others to use. This article is the culmination of that effort.

It’s uncommon for people to share their Purpose Statement, . I’ve chosen to share my purpose statement as an example. Hundreds of hours, dozens of conversations, and five revisions led to one statement. Pioneer a more beautiful future for others. It encompasses core values and personal convictions. You can dive deeper into my personal purpose statement.

Now, enjoy the Purpose Statement Framework and your journey of self discovery.


Make space. It’s unlikely that this process will take just a few hours. For me, it was an evolution over many months. To maintain continual momentum, setup a private place to take notes and record your thoughts. I used a private document on my personal computer. I added to it, reorganized it, and ultimately pulled from those sections to make this guide.

Do not share this document. The knowledge of it being visible to others will impede the open and honest flow of thoughts and ideas. You’ll likely discuss the pursuit with others but the notes should remain your own. The journey is for you and your future.

Engage Self-awareness Exercises

Personality assessments provide a great kickoff point. They’re loaded with valuable information and start laying a foundation to being thinking about how your mind works.

There are many types of self assessments. None are perfect, but each reveals something new about yourself that you way not have known. It’s not magic, but it does prompt your mind to focus on patterns and trends. Here are a few I found helpful:

Other’s I have heard of but haven’t tried include:

  • Colby
  • Brinkman

After each, the following questions should provide helpful time of reflection:

  • What affirmed what you already knew?
  • What new insights did you gain?
  • Which past experiences validate your learning?
  • Which past experiences disprove what you might have found that. Why?

Read Resources about Purpose and Values

Humans have been searching for meaning and purpose forever. As far as we can tell, this is a theme unique to our species and a symptom of our mental capabilities. Here are a few modern books that touch on the topic in diverse ways:

  • 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
  • The Road Back to You by Ian Cron
  • Dare to Lead by Brené Brown (contains a Values Exercise)
  • The Art of Significance by Dan Clark
  • Extreme Ownership by Jacko Willink
  • The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday
  • Principles by Ray Dalio
  • Mindset by Carol Dweck
  • Drive by Daniel Pink

Answer Historical Questions

Looking back throughout your personal history can often illuminate relevant trends and experiences. While we often forget day to day minutia, defining moments have a way of standing out. Some feel like scars but others inspire us. Why our mind anchored to those moments can reveal valuable truths.

  • When were 2-3 of your proudest moments?
  • When were 2-3 of your most shameful moments?
  • Who are 2-3 people you admire or respect? Why?
  • Who are 2-3 people you don’t admire or respect? Why?

Gain Perspective

Reach out to people whose opinion you value in different areas of life. The list should include successful professionals you admire, valued ‘family oriented’ people, and those whose personal discipline you respect. Leaning too heavily in one area of life could produce equally as unbalanced results in your own life.

I’ve found a simple, single question to be the most impactful and garner feedback from every people, “Do you have a person purpose statement?”

Once you’ve gotten their feedback, ask yourself, “Why did I choose these people over anyone else?”

Consolidate your Finding

Assuming you’ve been documenting your thoughts and findings along the way, begin to look for patterns. Which ideas are unique? Which ideas reemerge? Are there certain concepts that seem compelling?

Use the Goldilocks Method.

The goal of the Goldilocks Method is to sort things by too hot or too cold in order to land on something that’s just right. My original draft of a purpose statement was ‘leverage unlikely inputs to produce extraordinary outputs.’ It was revised for a variety of reasons, but the primary red-flag was that it was too sterile. The ‘inputs’ that were most important to me were actually people and the ‘outputs’ were lives changed. Talking about people with words like ‘inputs’ and ‘outputs’ lacked the emphasis on humanity I was striving for.

As you review the patterns you find, ask yourself:

  • Which word or phrases are too intense? Are some not intense enough?
  • Which are too rigid? Which are too ‘fluffy’? Why?
  • Which are too passive? Which are too assertive? Why?
  • Could it be more like this? Less like that?

Draft a Purpose Statement

I overthought this at first. Your first draft will likely be wrong, but just write something. From there, circle back on the Goldilocks Method to refine it. With each attempt, ask yourself:

  • Is it clear enough?
  • Would this help me decide between two choices?
  • Does this point toward a deeper ‘why’?

Share with a Core Group

Whether mentors or close peers, share what you’ve come up with. Resist the urge to defend it too rigorously, but get their perspective. Make sure they understand what you’re trying to accomplish and ask for specific feedback.

  • Does this seem like a fair representation
  • Does it make sense?
  • How would you summarize it?

Own it!

Don’t let the need for perfection bottleneck progress. Done is better than perfect. The emphasis to make it timeless can often overweight the importance. I decided to just look 10 years out. “Does this phrase give me enough direction and clarity for the next decade?”

If so, it’s time to own it.

Do you use a notebook? Write your new formed Purpose Statement on the first page. Maintain a blog? Perhaps a post that shares it and highlights your key findings. Most importantly, leverage it make your next decision. Big or small, see how it holds up.

Bonus Points

Once you’ve clearly defined a purpose statement, seek out a Mantra or Rally Cry. This is a shorter, declarative phrase that points back to your Purpose Statement and can be used to rally your mental focus. While it’s unlikely you’ll be in battle, this call quick prompt can center your mind quickly on the bigger picture purpose.

2018 Annual Report

The act of reflection continues to be the most impactful habit I’ve developed over the years. I’m continually amazed by how much growth can be seen in some areas of life while others seem to shrivel. I’ve broken down my Annual Report into the areas that matter most.

Also, pardon my typos. I had a lot of ground to cover and my usually proofreading process was too much mental energy.


Our family has seen a lot of changes in 2018. From our immediate family, to extended family, it’s been marked by births, moves, and big announcements.

Welcome Rowan!

Our little red-headed bundle of smiles was born on May 21, 2018. She LOVES her big sister. Major milestones at the moment include sitting up on her own, eating real food, and a veracious smile.


Despite some early resistance, we made the move to Smyrna. Walkable to specialty coffee, the grocery store, and local restaurants it’s been a welcome change. The ride to and from work has been somewhat grueling, but I’ve hit my annual target for audio books and arriving home is worth it.

School for Avery

Avery started at a school down the road from our house (about a 10 minute walk) two days a week. It’s allowed her to meet a new group of friends, level up her sharing skills, and increase her immunity to communicable diseases. It’s had the added benefit of allowing Megan to meet other local parents.

Marine Deployment

My brother has been serving in the United States Marine Corp for about the last decade. This year, he shipped out of his third overseas deployment. I continue to be proud and inspired by his committed service. So much of the liberties I enjoy as a husband, father, and entrepreneur are a direct result of people serving to preserve our freedom.

Polar Notion

Founded in 2012 with Josh Wood, Polar Notion welcomed new team members, structural changes, and new service offerings.

New Team Members

In late 2018, we welcomed Kevin and Miruna to the Polar Notion team. Kevin is apprenticing within our engineering team while Miruna is rounding out our design team as a design apprentice. Their fresh perspectives and positive attitudes have raised our average and leave us eager to see what 2019 holds.

Transparent Salaries

As our Leadership Team has dove deeper into operational excellence, we were led to reevaluate compensation and how we handle professional growth within the organization. Pushing the limits on human centered business, transparent compensation felt like a natural next step. The goal was that each person could defend their salary and understand exactly what’s expected to move up.

We’ve defined the levels of growth and mapped key behaviors to categories such as Values, Culture, Evangelism & Sales, Leadership, Client Facing Skills, Industry Involvement, and Knowledge. We learned a lot in the process, but have been pleased with the results.

Friends and Family

Our design team has launched a monthly design program called Friends & Family. It provides a low cost, low commitment, friendly way to create a better brand experience. This is a major milestone because it allows us to continue serving small businesses while our skills and rates increase.

Imminent Survival

Near the end of 2017, a client defaulted on an invoice costing us over $100,000. It created a grueling start to the year, but through creative problem solving and team buy-in, we’ve made it through the worst of it.

New Story

In the summer of 2018, I eclipsed my second year at New Story at CTO. The most notable changes surround our rapid growth. Ten team members have started at New Story within the last 12 months.

Team Members

I have the fortune of leading the Tech Team alongside Matthew Marshall, but we’ve seen growth in every department.

Shane Ardell
Tim Whitacre
Vi Pham
Sam Ballmer
Gary Carrier
Genna Heidkamp
Annie Brannon
Nathan Bach
Katie Tynes
Ellen Paik

3D Home Printer

This was a HUGE milestone as a company and for the home construction industry in general. You can read more about that moment here, or watch the video.

Atlanta Office

Originally meeting from the Polar Notion office, New Story is now in a space of their own. There is still room, but it’s filling up quickly.

Saas Product (Spoilers)

We haven’t shared a lot publicly, but we’re packaging up our learnings as a housing organization and rolling out a Saas (software as a service) product to allow other organization to experience the same efficiencies that have been driving our organization forward. We’ve set our sights on ending global homelessness and are equipping other organizations and governments to join us.


Apparently there are certain fish that never stop swimming. Asleep or awake, they never stop moving. I’m not sure if that’s true but love the notion. As humans, we have a remarkable ability to collaborate and adapt. This section highlights person changes or milestones this year.

New Roles

Board Chair for Entreprenuers Organization‘s Accelerator Program.

Mentor for Founder CEOs at Atlanta Tech Village

New Habits


Since running cross country in high school, I’ve always defaulted to water over any other beverage. On top regular trips to the water fountain throughout the day, I’ve added more thorough hydration to my morning ritual.

100 Somethin’

To get my blood flowing in the morning (inspired by Own Your Day), I’ve started doing 100 of some type of movement each morning. Squats, trunk twists, overhead press (unweighed), etc.

The whole process takes just a few minutes but immediately gets oxygen pumping to my brain.

Generous Followups

Most business people have a solid followup cadence for meetings and appointments. I took it up a notch by sending a direct message to the person who introed me to the person I met with and intro-ing that person to 1-3 other people. Example: I had a 30 minute coffee with Adam. Later that week: Send followup to Adam. Send thank you to whoever introed me to Adam. Make 1-3 intros to other people in my network Adam should meet.

New Tools

RealtimeBoard (

A virtual whiteboard. I have never fallen so fast for a product. It does exactly what you’d hope and the collaborative nature is excellent. Personally, Polar Notion, and New Story are all using it now.

Notion (

Wow, this tool has taken over my life. Best in class organizational structure for documents. It’s everything I wished was possible with Google Docs but couldn’t wait any longer.

Otter (

A native app for recording thoughts and meetings. I use it while I’m driving to riff on ideas and convert into articles later.

Lyft (

After a year full of Uber scandals, enough was enough. Yeah, it’s more expensive but our dollars are votes.


In no particular order.

  • Las Vegas, NV
  • Tahoe, CA
  • Austin, TX
  • Chicago, IL
  • San Francisco, CA (2x)
  • Seattle, WA
  • Chattanooga, TN


Building a StoryBrand: Clarify Your Message So Customers Will Listen

A great read if you looking to clarity your business’ message and position to customers. Also, the author has a worthwhile podcast that combines anecdotes with actionable insights.

Lost and Founder: A Painfully Honest Field Guide to the Startup World

A must read for founders. Whether you’re on your first business or fifth, it’s dispels common myths and resets expectations around starting a business, especially a tech startup.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

It’s a reminder of timeless truths that continue to yield extraordinary results. There is a lot of complex advise and insights, but Covey boils it down to the fundamentals. Likely worth revisiting each year.

Play Bigger: How Pirates, Dreamers, and Innovators Create and Dominate Markets

Great read for marketers and founders about the art and science of creating a ‘Category’. Rather than trying to compete with the noise of a crowded marketing, creating a new Category and becoming it’s king has a proven path to success… if you can do it right.

The Creative Curve: How to Develop the Right Idea, at the Right Time

Creativity isn’t magic. We are all creative creatures and it comes back to a balance of consuming and trying stuff. Great for people who view them selves as ‘non creatives’ or other who think they have some magic ability. The brilliant minds we elevate as a culture we’re too different from us, which is worth remembering and this book breaks that truth down well.

Own the Day, Own Your Life: Optimized Practices for Waking, Working, Learning, Eating, Training, Playing, Sleeping, and Sex

Rather than complicating health, Aubrey Marcus breaks it down into focusing on just one day. Planning the perfect, thoughtful day. A lot of great health and fitness tips, combined with a casual yet scientific perspective. Our life is merely a serious of choices, he simplifies the importance of choosing well.

Atomic Habits: Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results

In listening, it reminiscent of The Power of Habit (from my 2016 reading list) but the tips and principles are worth repeating. Listening to Atomic Habits around the same time as Own the Day really drilled home the point. They compliment each other well. Also, the author (James Clear) has an active twitter account full of great habit-forming wisdom.

Thirst: A Story of Redemption, Compassion, and a Mission to Bring Clean Water to the World

Our team at New Story has long admired Charity Water. Ironically, Matthew and Brett both applied to joined their team. Fortunately for the earth’s homeless population, they didn’t get the opportunity. 😉 Scott Harrison’s journey and life transformation is inspiring. It provides useful wisdom for nonprofits of all ages. Not a nonprofit leader, if you have a pulse you’ll likely connect with Scott’s inner wrestlings and vulnerability.

This Is Marketing: You Can’t Be Seen Until You Learn to See

Seth Godin continues to rank among my favorite authors and thinkers. He connects dots that others don’t see and continually challenges others to think differently. To think better. Make things better by making better things. I bought the preorder, the special edition, and some other thing associated with the launch.

Dear Seth, take my money.

Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.

A Polar Notion team member helped me climb aboard the Brene Brown bandwagon in 2017 and Dare to Lead prompted me to settle deeper in my seat. Her practical approach to human psychology provides a need voice and her unapologetic pursuit of breaking down the walls between people is motivating. If you lead people, this will challenge commonly held beliefs. If you don’t see yourself as a leader: read this book, change your mind, and get started.

Alie Heenan your confidence and courage led me to give Brene a chance. For that, I’m grateful.

It Doesn’t Have to Be Crazy at Work

Jason Fried and DHH provide an extreme anchor to the hustle-grind-madness that has come to define startup and entrepreneurial ventures. It’s easy to reject their position at face value, but when you hear their passion for a better style of workplace it’s worth the dissonance. It’s unlikely any business can implement everything they mention, but don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. Their investments in human-centered work are only the beginning of a massive shift we will experience in the next 10-20 years.

Matthew Marshall, thanks for the advance copy. I’m love building a world class company culture with you.

The Great Game of Business, Expanded and Updated: The Only Sensible Way to Run a Company

Rather than keeping team members in the dark, The Great Game of Business showcases what’s possible when you trust people to show up with their whole selves. Exemplifying a transparent business, it’s refreshing to hear how successful their unique recipe of trust and openness has become.

Thanks Adam Walker and Shantel Khleif for the recommendation here.

The Servant: A Simple Story About the True Essence of Leadership

If you can’t make time to read this annually, you should start by reading it daily. It’s a powerful story about leading from a place of submission and servanthood. Tim Dorr turned me back onto it and I continue to be challenged and inspired.

To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth about Moving Others

As humans, we’re always selling whether it’s in our job description or not. When my daughter brings me the remotes and says, “watch Muana”… she is selling. Rather than rejecting the notion, To Sell is Human adds new color and clarity to how we bring our ideas into the world.

Never Lose a Customer Again: Turn Any Sale into Lifelong Loyalty in 100 Days

Customer experience is more important than even. If you’re a business owner who thinks sales is the key to growing your business, pause for a moment. Customer retention is the backbone to business growth and this book provides tips, strategies, and a way of thinking about customer advocacy.

Unshakeable: Your Financial Freedom Playbook

Tony Robbins simplifies basic financial strategy. He breaks down wealth creation, retirement planning, personal spending and more. If you’re ‘playing the stockmarket’, this conservative approach to playing the long game might be just what the doctor ordered.

The Thank You Economy

Gary Vaynerchuk has strong opinions shared intensely, but his predictions and understanding of how human connections have and will shape the economy is impressive. What’s most impressive is how well the content has help up so many years after publication. So much is still right on point.

The Art of Significance: Achieving the Level Beyond Success

I’ve been heavily focused since September on developing a personal purpose statement. This book gave some helpful tips and insights. Nothing comes to mind off the top of my head, but was worth nodding along to.

Great by Choice

Jim Collins scientific approach to business analysis is illuminating. A great read for founders and business leaders working to build a lasting business of significance. Spoiler: It rarely happens by accident.

The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

The New Story team read through this book together and we’ve engaged in dozens of meaningful conversations. It describes each personality type of the Enneagram. I’m an eight (challenger) with seven (enthusiast) tendencies. This book was the origin of a lot of reflection and self discovery. It also sparked great conversations between me and Meg.

Thanks Annie Brannon, fellow 8, for pushing this forward like only a Challenger would. 🙂

No More Cold Calling: The Breakthrough System That Will Leave Your Competition in the Dust

I’m not the ‘cold call’ kind of salesman. I’ve always found it to lack empathy and pretty inefficient. This book talks about the value of investing in current customers to drive referrals. It lands on the importance of relational business.

If we’re the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with: Kara Brown, you continue to raise my average. Thanks for the suggestion.

Pitch Anything: An Innovative Method for Presenting, Persuading, and Winning the Deal

A helpful guide for getting and keeping people’s attention. It’s easy to assume people say ‘no’ because they don’t want something when more often than not it’s because we’ve poorly engaged them.

Crushing It!: How Great Entrepreneurs Build Their Business and Influence-and How You Can, Too

A firehose of social media insights and marketing expertise. It’s on the other end of the spectrum from It Doesn’t Have to Be Crazy at Work but gives some helpful advise for building a business. Especially in the early years, the lift is often quite heavy.

Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise

Perhaps my favorite book of 2018, Peak talks about the effort required to achieve mastery in almost anything. Unwilling to settle for the idea of ‘natural ability’, he presents compelling evidence that supports the thoughtful, consistent student. As someone who never really excelled at anything growing up, I’ve felt the compound effect of his insights throughout my adult life. The importance of consistent, deliberate practice rings load in this book and it’s value has been felt thoroughly in my own life.

Managing Oneself + The Effective Executive: The Definitive Guide to Getting the Right Things Done

I lumped these together because they’re so similar. Akin to The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Peter Druker has a succinct, straight forward way to hitting the essentially for personal growth. Special thanks to the Dave Gerhardt and David Cancel from Drift for recommending.

Measure What Matters: How Google, Bono, and the Gates Foundation Rock the World with OKRs

Intent on finding a better process for tracking goals, we read through Measure What Matters with New Story Leadership this year. Stilling looking for a tool that’s not Excel to track progress but the shared vocabulary and simple framework has proven helpful. We’ve bounced around a little with the best way of breaking annual, quarterly, and monthly OKRS into personal, department, and company items but it’s a work in progress that’s picking up steam.

Smartcuts: How Hackers, Innovators, and Icons Accelerate Success

I’ve always struggle with the idea of social norms or unwritten rules. Smartcuts spotlights entreprenuers and innovators who found broke these cultural constraints to achieve extraordinary results. For myself, I’ve begun referring to the idea as ‘coloring outside the lines’, and this book echos that ethos.

Sarah Lee, I own you one here. The mention of DHH put me over the edge.

Sell or Be Sold: How to Get Your Way in Business and in Life

We’re either selling something (a service, a widget, a preference, an idea) or being sold by someone else. It can create a paradigm shift for most people but seems ideal for founders or sales people.

The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph

As I mentioned in my personal recap from 2018, we had some major challenges at Polar Notion. This book came at just the right time and served as a reminder that challenges are part of the journey. Rich with stoic principles, it’s a worthwhile read for anyone who has felt the urge to complain about almost anything.

Be Obsessed or Be Average

Grant Cardone is a madman, but a great reminder about the importance of finding something you enjoy and throwing your whole self into it. I have a tendency to obsess things, so left me feeling like I was in good company.

Principles: Life and Work

I enjoyed hearing Ray’s thoughtfilled approach to almost everything. Rather than viewing life as a random series of events, he provides a wealth of knowledge and insight about distilling thoughts into repeatable processes. Instead of relearning, his approach to principled living was impactful and has led me to think more about the ‘why’ behind decisions.

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Special Mentions

I attended two funerals this year. Two men whose legacy has had a lasting impact on my life. I’d spent little time with them personally but their children and grandchildren have marked my life beyond compare.

Bob Ardell

I came to know Bob Ardell through his son, Jason Ardell. For years, Jason has been a close friend and early mentor as I began a career in technology. Through stories shared, it was evident that Bob was an avid reader for decades and continually invested in his family.

Read Obituary

Warren Wood

I met Warren for the first time in middle school. He was grandfather to Josh, one of my longest friends and business partner. Warren’s son, Mike, continues to display an advanced work ethic and stoic resolve that seem to have been a direct result of Warren’s leadership and modeling.

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Annual Reflection Framework

Another year is gone in a blink.

Over half a million minutes of life lived. Taking time reflect on the status of key areas can help ensure the past was well spent and the future is more impactful. Borrowing from the techniques of others, the most prominent being the 4 Burner Theory*, I put together an exercise for myself to frame this valuable reflection.

I put aside about 3 hours and worked through each section. Thoughts, ideas, and insights began pouring out. The goal is not a resulting task list for the next year. The purpose is to frame yourself around what matters most. Each year should involve more of what matters and less of what doesn’t.

It’s about thoughtful action, not perfection.

Also, I will not be publishing my own reflections. The ratings and insights are (and should be) convicting and highly personal. It’s unrealistic to think a public audience wouldn’t bias my thoughts or vulnerability. Growth and maturity is the goal.

* The 4 Burner Theory. You’ll notice my prompt is different, but the intention is quite similar.

  1. The first burner represents your family.
  2. The second burner is your friends.
  3. The third burner is your health.
  4. The fourth burner is your work.


Overall Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️


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Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

What would it take to increase 1 star in the coming year?

What is one upcoming change I should prepare for?


One summary per child:

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

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What would it take to increase 1 star in the coming year?

What is one upcoming change I should prepare for?


One summary per sibling:

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

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What is one upcoming change I should prepare for?


One summary per parent:

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

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What is one upcoming change I should prepare for?


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One summary per friend (deep friendships):

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

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One summary per mentor:

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

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One summary per mentee:

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

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Local Community.

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

What would it take to increase 1 star in the coming year?

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Global Community.

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

What would it take to increase 1 star in the coming year?

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Overall Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Physical Health.

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

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Mental Health.

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

What would it take to increase 1 star in the coming year?

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Professional / Work

Overall Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️


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Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

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Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

What would it take to increase 1 star in the coming year?

What is one upcoming change I should prepare for?

Your Boss / Supervisor.

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

What would it take to increase 1 star in the coming year?

What is one upcoming change I should prepare for?

Your Team.

Rating (1-5 stars): ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Greatest Success?

Greatest Failure?

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Effective Leadership Teams

Over the last few years, I’ve watched first-hand as two teams transition out of reactive decision making and into more proactive choices. In both cases, defined and organized leadership teams are at the center. Regularly confronting organizational patterns and trends becomes a gateway to improved performance. It also provides increased alignment around company vision, values, and behaviors.

Beyond traditional c-level leadership, interdisciplinary leadership teams can also be highly impactful. Take Business Operations for instance. Operations is one part of the organization’s needs, but a growing company will eventually require more specialization.  Selecting key members within operations will allow for increased buy-in and deeper focus are the vital part of the organization.

In a recent session with our Operations team at Polar Notion, we distilled the form and function into the following concepts.

The Purpose

We should explore current operational pains, in order to produce lasting organizational gains. The discussion time should focus on things that are high impact, high frequency, and high volume.

High Impact items are those which present substantial cost, unsustainable inefficiencies, or significant opportunities. A problem around company culture, for instance, runs the risk of effecting every part of the business.

High Frequency problems are felt on a regular and recurring basis. Assuming all things are equal, a pain felt daily is more important than one felt annually.

High Volume problems impact multiple people. While it’s important to address problems of all sizes, the cost is much great when felt in mass.

Ideally, issues appropriately sized for a leadership team would overlap in these areas. The goal shouldn’t be to tackle them all at once. If appropriately prioritized, the gains and improvements will likely compound.


Consistent agenda’s are crucial of standing meetings. Here is a simple example we’ve tried for the operations team.

  1. Everyone brings 1-2 problems and proposed solutions.
  2. Each person shares problems.
  3. Nominate a ‘winner’ based on highest value to organization.
  4. Chosen problem is unpacked in more details along with proposed solutions*.
  5. Remainder of time is identifying and discussing solutions.

*Solution should include:

  • Classification of problem (people problem, strategy problem, cash problem, execution problem).
  • Proposed action?
  • Who is needed?
  • What does success look like?


Continuous, forward movement is crucial for an organization of any size. A healthy cadence of tackling the biggest problems can lead to organizational maturity, growth, and a more enjoyable work experience for all.

Big Meetings and Better Choices

There are few things more costly than large, group meetings. Whether we realize it or not, they are the greatest expense of a business. More than salaries, benefits, or a physical building.

More than utilities, inventory, benefits, or a physical building. They may be needed, but it’s a tall order to make sure they are worth it.

They disrupt the day, occupy limited time, and become bottlenecks to productivity. If Deep Work is where we experience a state of flow and professional achievement, large meetings usually impede that progress.

Here are some strategies to build better meetings.

Choose smaller blocks.

There are plenty of cases where large meetings are needed. Whose says they have to be long? Many businesses default to one hour block. Unfortunately, stuff expands to the space you give it. How different might a meeting flow if everyone knew there was only 30 minutes? 15 minutes? There is nothing magical about an hour, though it seems to be a common interval. For an average work day, 1 hour meeting consumes over 10% of your time.

Review priorities regularly.

As I mentioned in weekly rituals, priorities are constantly evolving. Coincidentally, some meetings are scheduled weeks or months in advance. Before blindly attending, evaluate it’s relevance and have the courage to cancel if it’s no longer necessary. Not only does this free up precious time, but it also respects the time of other attendees as well.

Keep them small.

Other than a demo, I’m skeptical that a meeting with more than 6 people is useful for everyone. Meetings should block as little time as necessary and involve as few people as possible.

Come prepared.

Meetings should have an agenda ahead of time and all parties should come prepare with their contribution. Nothing is more useless than a directionless meeting or one in which everyone isn’t prepared to contribute.

Opt out.

‘Do you need me in this meeting’ is a fair question. Imagine if you don’t understand why you were present you would have permission to leave. More people would welcome this than you might expect. Excusing yourself is more noble and respectable than merely staying because you were invited.

Protect your schedule.

I’ve found meetings work best when they bookend larger chunks of heads-down time. Rather than slicing a 3 hour block in half with a meeting, you’ll have more uninterrupted time if you schedule the meeting at the beginning or the end of that time.

Introduce a Reschedule Limit.

If a meeting gets rescheduled more than twice, perhaps it wasn’t that much of a priority in the first place. When considering how many people are impacted, the act of finding an opening on everyone’s calendar is an even greater drain.

Batch productive time.

Allowing mental space to do great work is important. Identify key days that can be free from meetings. These prolonged strengths of work can often become an oasis from otherwise cluttered schedules. At Polar Notion, we start sprints on Wednesdays and end on Tuesdays. This makes Tuesday and Thursday crucial days in making progress. These days should be as clear as possible.

Shoulder to shoulder

Mentorship and learning is one exception. Meetings that fuel a deeper understanding, rich decision making, and professional development are crucial. We’ll try to invite team members into meetings where they could learn something new or practice a skill they are developing. If you see a particular meeting as a learning opportunity, speak up, make sure you’re in the room, and make sure it was worth it.

Work Life Harmony

The notion of work-life-balance is nonsense. It implies that our work lives and personal lives are disjointed and function in constant opposition to each other. It was crafted as a protective counterbalance for people oppressed by their employers.

The two are not siloed. You can not prevent your work life from invading your personal life any more than you can stop your personal life from pushing against your work life. They are connected. You are connected.

I prefer the notion of work-life-harmony. In an ideal setting, they collaborate rather than compete. Work should be an outlet for us to express our personality and creativity. It should be the catalyst for our best work, not a barrier to our natural desires. This allows us to find opportunities for overlap and pursue alignment. Rather than focusing on keeping score, we focus on bringing our best self.

Actionable Insights

Practically speaking, our full time team members work 40 hour weeks. In an average week, those hours should fit nicely between Monday and Friday. That’s not to say there won’t be late nights or an all-hands push to launch a product. But to account for that, we add plenty of freedom and flexibility each step along the way.

Rather than optimizing for social norms, I prefer pushing people to optimize for their best self. When they bring their best, everyone wins. It’s worth taking time to think about…

  • What time works best to start your day?
  • What is required for you to focus?
  • How much sleep do you need to function best?
  • When do you do your best work?

Communicating Expectations

At Polar Notion, managing client expectations is a huge part of how we keep our sanity. We’ve even put together a Client Handbook that sets expectations. On top of that, we’re constantly reminding those we work with that Slack is not a realtime communication tool for us. We prioritize productivity over promptness. In the end, we teach others how to treat us and should own our own experience.

I also have a footer on my emails to make sure people understand when I’ll be getting back to them. Hint, it’s not within the hour. The simple act of communicating this expectation opens up a valuable discussion or endearing bits of encouragement.


Rest and relaxation are an important part of doing meaningful work. Constant ‘grind’ and ‘hustle’ does not map to increased productivity.

When you’re working, crush it. When you’re not working, fight the urgent need to ‘checkin’.

Making Big Decisions

The discipline of big decision making

As we’re presented with important decisions, it’s easy to procrastinate or become immobilized. Over time, the stakes get higher and our decisions affect more people. To withstand the pressure of major decisions and keep moving forward, I’ve outlined habits I revert back to when big decisions arise.


Before leaving corporate life to raise our kids, my wife was wrestling with a decision for months. At the time, she was not sleeping well. The workload was causing her to neglect her health too. Recognizing the need for a change though feeling too overwhelmed to decide, we scheduled a day or so away at the spa. No work, agenda, or responsibilities she was free to rest up, relax, and recover. Before returning home less than 48 hours later, she knew what she had to do.

Don’t make big decisions when you’re off your game. Being clear headed and calm is invaluable. Sleep, food, and exercise all play a part in our mental capacity. Their presence or absence continually impact our lives.


Think back on past experience. While our victories can be enlightening, our failures are often more useful instructors. Those unwilling to learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them. For me, writing is part of my reflection process. I’m constantly evaluating past situations based on my current understanding.

Over the years, I’ve found it enlightening to revisit the same experiences regularly. As we learn and grow, it’s likely our own history will reveal new insights. There are a few anchor moments that serve as a baseline time and time again. Those this can be somewhat painful at times, our past experiences continue to shape us.

Weigh Tradeoffs

Imagine you’re juggling 6 balls. Some are rubber, some are steel, and others glass. Rubber will bounce back quickly if dropped. Steel won’t bounce, but it likely won’t be damaged. Glass, unfortunately, won’t take a hit. You can’t choose how fragile the balls are but if you’re deliberate, you can let the right ones fall.

At any time there are dozens are competing priorities. Time, cost, quality, and satisfaction are just the tip of the iceberg and they rarely work in unison. It’s important to spell out what’s most important and be willing to compromise on the rest. We’ll never be perfect, but we can choose where to double our efforts and what we should let slide.

It’s also helpful to assess the consequences. Some choices have limited consequences while others may be painful to recover from. Decisions with a large upside and limited downside are usually a great place to start.

As leaders, common tradeoffs include:

• Timelines

• Budget

• Morale

• Quality

• Speed

• Value

Due to so many tradeoffs, there is rarely a ‘right choice’. Optimize for the most important factors and let the rubber bounce.

Gain Perspective

In 2017, our team at Polar Notion was pulled into a law suit. The experience shared by fellow business owners and entreprenuers proved priceless. Not only did their perspective help reframe my expectations, we went into the situation more informed and level headed.

Ask others who have made similar decisions and whose insight you trust. Leveraging their expertise and insight, filter your situation through their perspective. Beyond settling for ‘what would you do’, inquire about a time when they were in a similar position. ‘What did you do’ will lead away from speculation and toward real world experience. You path will be different but the exercise can reveal new insight.


In 2014, separate from our existing business, we tried to launch a software company. The market seemed solid and the technology worked well… the issue was our commitment to the idea. Allowing ourselves to be distracted by other projects, the failure can be attributed to our level of commitment.

The final and most important step is taking dedicated action. More often than not, failure can be traced back to weak commitment, not the quality of our decision. When you take action, commit fully. A mediocre decision, fully execute beats a great decision with half-hearted effort.

If you have take the time to rest, reflect, weigh tradeoffs, and gain perspective you should trust your conclusion enough to move forward confidently.

Battling Indifference within Service Work

A few years ago, we were working on a logo design project for a cities parks and recreation department. While putting together three examples, we decided to add a fourth alternative. Unlike the first three, this fourth option was dated and clearly inferior. It was an anchor to make the others look even better. Our hearts sunk when they selected and became unwavering about option four.
Polar Notion, like many creative teams, focuses on bringing ideas to life. Other people’s ideas. We have a talented team that has seen hundreds of projects. This experience allows us to track trends across the industry and dial in our intuition. Our team pours days, weeks, and months into the thoughtful execution of these projects.
From time to time, clients ignore our expertise. Whether direction shifts or minds change, our efforts are rendered unnecessary. It can be defeating and discouraging.
Eventually, this type of behavior can lead to indifference and burnout. As humans, we enjoy creating but the work should be seen, experienced, and enjoyed. Crafting something special only to live unshared is demoralizing.

Open-handed and Close-handed

Sitting in the tension of client services, I separate choices into two types. Our work yields open-handed solutions and close-handed solutions. An open-handed solutions is one in which there is ample flexibility. We may have an opinion, but can compromise without much resistance. A close-handed solution is one in which we have a strong opinion. Unlike an open-handed solution, we push harder on close-handed issues. These are choices there is a deep conviction about. They are the hills worth dying on.
A few years ago, I began practicing a three strike policy for close-handed issues. If convinced about a decision, I’ll make three attempts to plead my case. With each attempt, I become more deliberate with expressing the value and the risks of opting out. The third and final attempt comes to a head with me stating, “I can budge and we can move on. But what I hear you telling me is I need to do what I’m told. Is that correct?”
Hired for our expertise, acknowledgement here can shift us into a passive posture. If three such instances were to occur, we know it’s time to part ways.

Walking Well in the Tension

We want to be respectful, generous, and humble but we are also hired to do a job. When it’s clear our opinion is not valued, it undermines our value and wastes everyone’s time.
In the end, we’re in a constant battle against indifference. The three strike policy is a way of protecting our passion. It also provides a shared vocabulary that promotes credibility and trust with those who entrust our team with their ideas and inspiration.

Workplace Diversity

At New Story’s recent quarterly leadership summit, Alexandria Lafci (a cofounder and friend) presented on the value of diversity in the workplace. With patience and empathy, she shared in depth research and permitted an endless stream of questions. Reflecting on her thoughtful presentation, it felt like something worth sharing.

We should be understanding, accepting, and valuing differences between people of different races, ethnicities, genders, ages, religions, disabilities, and sexual orientations, as well as differences in personalities, skill sets, experiences, and knowledge bases. That’s not to imply most people are outwardly aggressive or openly alienate those who are different. In many cases however, it’s our unconscious biases that wreak the most havoc.

Awareness is the first step toward making a change.

Speaking Intelligently

It was clarifying to see diversity in two categories: inherent diversity and acquired diversity.

Inherent diversity includes Demographic characteristics like race, sex, and age.

Acquired diversity includes factors such as education, experience, values, skills and knowledge.

Competitive Advantage

Despite what people may believe about human rights, a strong business case exists for diversity as well. According to the University of Michigan, “Groups of diverse problem solvers outperform groups of high-ability problem solvers.”

McKinsey conducted a study in which they discovered that “companies with diverse executive boards enjoy significantly higher earnings and returns on equity.”

That’s not to say the appearance of diversity it important. What matters is giving everyone within the group an equal voice at the table. It is the presence and leveraging of unique perspectives and experiences that drives the increase in performance.


Work compensation is the most objective measure of inequality. For instance, studies show that Latin females make less than 50 cents on the dollar.

One of the simplest ways we’ve found to combat such indifference at Polar Notion is to institute transparent compensation across the organization. Those within the organization understand how their pay was determined, what it takes to move up, and how it compares to their peers. It involved defining each tier and diving deep into expectations, but the veil of compensation is non existent. Interestingly enough, it was the pursuit of greater team buy-in and enriched collaboration that sparked transparent salaries. Equality was a natural benefit of that same level of transparency.

Today, I’m still learning a lot about what diversity truly means. It’s invaluable to have friends like Alexandria and others willing to engage in discourse. My process is imperfect and comes with a renewing sense of discomfort. However, the pursuit is important and I hope our teams and communities are better for it.

Feel free to read more about my gateway into the topic of diversity.